Today was a rough day. Not personally, or professionally, well, trouble at work was as usual! Towards the end of my day, I was listening to coworkers conversations, the way you do when they happen to be in the same area as you, and listening to them, I got a sick feeling in my gut. Nothing can be more disheartening than listening to people so casually discussing cheating. It breaks my heart a little every time I hear someone throw something, potentially so great, right out the window.
I get so angry whenever someone forsakes their wedding vows. Yes, it’s not my marriage or relationship, but it deeply offends me.
I’m not saying people don’t make mistakes, they do, we are after all, only human. What upsets me about it is the fact that they don’t care.
If you make promises to someone, you should try your best. If you promise to love someone forever, you shouldn’t be willing to turn so quickly to someone else. I think, most importantly, you have to be honest! If you cheat on someone, tell them! If you don’t really love someone, don’t lie to them about it!
I take my marriage very seriously. It sounds a little cheesy, but I really believe he’s the love of my life. I’m not a huge believer in soul mates, for all that it is a romantic notion. I do strongly believe that there are people we are more suited to, and though it may seem contradictory, I do believe we all have one great love of our lives. I don’t think Tony was destined to be in my life, but choices we’ve made, have made him become a part of me.
I don’t expect anyone to have my same ideals, I would never ask that of someone. The only thing I do ask of people: if you are not willing to commit to your relationships, be they friendly or romantic, don’t cheapen all relationships by lying.
That’s part of why it offends me. I don’t think that allowing same sex couples to marry will destroy the institution of marriage. I know many who disagree with that statement, but this is my blog, so it’s my opinion. What cheapens all marriages, is when people see them as something disposable. It’s not the new dating, or a way to pass some time while you’re waiting for something better.
This may seem like a rant, but it’s really a desperate plea! Take your relationships seriously. I’m not saying don’t have casual ones, but please don’t pretend they are something they’re not.
Love is precious. Take care with it!
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